In a situation where you are trying to make changes in your life, to improve your own health and wellbeing, should you let go of people who are blocking that change?
That can be a tough question, particularly if those people are loved ones that we have known for most of our lives. It can be difficult to manage the expectations of the people around us, and as social creatures there is a constant state of flux between our personal identities, our personal goals, and the social identities and expectations that we are subjected to. But when it comes to your health, we should be looking inwards to what we need, and not outwards to what others desire out of us.
At the end of the day, the people in our lives that we are close to should have our best interests at heart. If they are in some way trying to stop you from making changes, or shaming you in any way for attempting change, that is not having your best interests at heart. In that situation, likely there are some insecurities that person is experiencing that they are putting on you. Maybe they have issues with their health, or weight, or mental health etc.. Maybe they have tried and failed to make changes in their lives, and so are ashamed that they can’t achieve what you are attempting.
People change, and you are aloud to do so. You should not feel the need to remain the same person, or act out the same behaviours, to appease everyone else in your life. Granted, I would not encourage completely isolating yourself so as to only focus on your self. Social support sometimes is the vital ingredient to make long-term, positive health behaviour change, and we need people in our lives to encourage us. But if those people aren’t doing that, and are doing everything to drag you down, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate that relationship…